No matter how well I condition myself to deal with all of the negativity and abuse in League of Legends, certain things that my team or the other team says will always be able to push my buttons. Some of them you might agree with; some of them will probably leave you scratching your head. I hope that by throwing some of them down it will help me to better understand why these things make me unhappy, and will hopefully allow me to better ignore them in the future.
“First time playing such and such character?” It very well might be. If Riot didn’t want me to try new champions then why would they release so darn many of them into this game? Despite my love of trying new champions, I will never try them out for the first time in a ranked game or other serious situations. This makes this taunt even more frustrating to me. No, this isn’t my first time playing Olaf. I’m having a bad day, I’m tired, and your jungler has been camping top all day. Does any of that matter to you? Nope. You just assume I’m some kind of idiot and have to point that out to everyone.
“You know you should have built such and such item on that character, right?” I get it. No matter how flexible this game is supposed to feel, there will always be certain builds for certain champs that are considered to be the most beneficial. Think about it for a second. A silly build can make your life much more difficult than it needs to be, but it alone will not lose you the game. How many times have we seen pros win with crazy builds that seem to make no sense on certain champions? They do this because they know the champion inside and out and are confident with them. So many other things go into a League of Legends match other than your item build. Team work, individual skin, map awareness etc. Yes, you may feel like the fact that I went with a BORK over a Brutalizer lost me my lane. It might also be due to the fact that I pushed too hard and didn’t buy wards. Either way, what’s done is done.
Some people welcome advice on their items after the game. I often find it condescending and kind of insulting. You are implying that you know the champion better than I do, and again, you are giving no weight to other things that happened in the game. If you tell me this after the game, phrase it politely and make a good argument for or against a certain item, I will listen to you. But be careful. Like most players in this game, I am competitive, I have an ego, I don’t like to lose and there is a chance I will not respond well regardless of how nice and smart you think you are being.
“What were you thinking, there?” I don’t know. Sometimes I don’t end up thinking. Sometimes I think too much, and sometimes I read the situation wrong all together. This one doesn’t always bug me so much, but it usually makes me feel like I need to justify myself and that is annoying when what I should be focusing on is moving forward and not screwing up the next time. I don’t like it when my teammates say this to me. Again, I know I did wrong. Let me move on and make up for my mistakes. Don’t encourage me to dwell on something I no longer have the power to change.
“Here comes the surrender vote.” Never, ever, tell me that I should surrender to you. I do not care how bleak the situation is; if you try and encourage me to surrender I will gladly do everything in my power to drag out the game. The arrogance of this statement always fires up my blood. These guys are not content to just beat you. They also need to point out how bad they beat you and many people will also go on to state that you are not worth their time. The funny thing is that it’s the people who are saying this who have everything to lose when the game goes on. It is the taunter’s game to throw, and many times they are just hoping to get a surrender so they don’t have to worry about ending the game. Closing out a game is one of the most difficult tasks in LoL, and if you have the nerve to tell me to surrender, I will make sure that you have plenty of time ahead of you to try and throw the game. You can rest assured that I will dig in as hard as I possibly can.
The more I write about the things that people say in LoL that make me mad, the more I realize how silly they are. Quite a few of these statements can be said with no insult intended. Others aren’t really that nasty, in and of themselves, but can be interpreted to be thought of more as insults than friendly advice. I think this will always be the problem for any game that relies on typed communication. Without tone and without facial expressions, everything that is stated can be interpreted pretty much any way a person wants.
This is something I feel that a lot of LoL players forget, or ignore, especially when talking to their own teammates. When you’re trying to give advice to a teammate, it is important that you consider how you phrase your advice. “Why did you build such and such item?” can be an innocent question but can also be read as an accusation. If you want to avoid damaging your already fragile working relationship with your teammates, make sure that you give some thought into how you are saying things to them – or just don’t say anything at all. So many times I have seen teams fall apart over something that was misinterpreted in chat and lose an otherwise winnable game.
If you are the kind of person who enjoys saying this stuff to other people, I hope you take a second to realize how much of a jerk you can end up sounding like. And if you do realize exactly the impact your words are having…well good for you. Someday I will learn to ignore you, but until then, I hope I can focus on my game enough to make you pay in the long run. If you are going to spend your time taunting me, I will spend my time farming and playing smart. The sweetest revenge of all is when you can focus on your game and make your opponent feel your revenge through your champ play – not your words.
Is there anything that other players say that really makes you guys unhappy? I love hearing all the stupid things that people say to each other in this game, so please don’t hesitate to share. My venting above has left me feeling a little bit silly, but I also do feel better for getting it all off my chest and realizing just how overly sensitive I can be. League of Legends can be a nasty and lonely game, but that doesn’t mean that we have to suffer alone. So share what makes you mad, and I promise I will join you in ranting about it.